Help Yourself To Break Free Of Victim Mentality
Help Yourself To Break Free Of Victim
( This is an article that I wrote for Mastin Kipp for his ‘The Daily Love’ Blog )
Many of us pass through some of our lives thinking that we are victims. We think that bad things only happen to us. We believe that life is good for our friends and that we are the only people in the world that have picked the ‘short straw’.
Being a victim gives us the security of not having to take responsibility for what happens to us. We enjoy the time, pity and attention that others give us. When we act like victims, we become victims of our own mind – it’s a vicious circle.
“Don’t become the victim of yourself. Forget about the thief waiting in the alley; what about the thief in your mind?” Jim Rohn
Why do we feel like victims?
- Challenging times: heartbreaks, loss of loved ones and loss of security
- Low self esteem
- Negative thinking
- Negative friends or family
- A fear of taking risks
- Your beliefs – feeling that you are being punished by The Uni-verse
To help yourself:
- Take responsibility and stop feeling sorry for yourself – bad things happen to everyone, but with will power and time we can come to terms with the situation and improve our life.
- Forgive others and yourself – by forgiving another for the pain they may have caused, you will also set yourself free. (This is one of the most difficult things to do, but when done, it’s the most rewarding.)
- Start taking risks – you will only realize the miracle of life when you push your limits.
- Read books and articles with positive messages – there is a wealth of ‘healthy reading’ available everywhere.
- Surround yourself with positive people – positive energy is infectious. When we surround ourselves with positive people their energy transfers to us as well – remember when a candle lights another candle it doesn’t lose its flame, it makes the room brighter.
- Start helping others and by default you will help yourself.
- Work on your self-esteem and confidence – attend courses, have counseling – do whatever it takes!
To help with negative thinking:
- When something bad happens, write down what you could do to improve the situation. Try and see the situation from a different perspective. For example, if you lose your job it may be the perfect opportunity to have a career change. After all, when one door closes another always opens.
- Be thankful for what you have – adopt an attitude of gratitude – you must have heard the phrase “I complained about my shoes until I saw the man next to me had no feet”.
- Read positive books and inspirational biographies of people who have endured so much and have come through successfully.
Always remember you are not alone; millions of us have suffered a similar situation. If you want help, all you need to do is ask for it – speak to friends, family, seek professional help and in this day and age you can even google for help!
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